Why are these three little words so scary? Why is it easy for some people to say them and not so easy for others? What do they really mean? So many questions surround this popular phrase. So why don't I break it down a little bit for ya.
Definitions....
love
Noun
| An intense feeling of deep affection: "their love for their country". |
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Verb
| Feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to (someone): "do you love me?". |
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Synonyms
| noun. | affection - fondness - darling - passion |
| verb. | like - be fond of - fancy - adore
So, when you tell someone you love them, you're not saying you want to jump their bones, be their wife/husband, bear their children or jump in front of a bullet for them. You are simply saying that you are fond of them, adore them or have an intense feeling of deep affection. Oh sure, you can also be feeling a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone.
I think that people are getting so use to having no emotional attachments, that they are literally running from the word "love". I mean take "Friends With Benefits" for example. An FWB is someone you are friends with that you screw, bang, smash... or whatever you want to call it. But this is someone you have sexual intercourse with that you have no other attachments to. Some people have this arrangement set up to fulfill their sexual desires in a somewhat safer way, since a lot of times they are only being intimate with one person.
And then you the "Mains". Yes, this one is very popular. You're not my "man", you're my "main". You're my #1 Smash. Hmmm, I feel so honored. No, this means that you are among several others that are getting the goods (if their good). All I'm saying is BE SAFE!
So what is the problem here? I think that there is some screw-up in communication. See, you can love someone and you can be in love with someone. I think this is where people are getting confused and running away. Me personally, if a guy told me he loved me and I wasn't sure what he meant, I would ask. I wouldn't leave him floating in the air like a birthday balloon that got away. That's why communication is key. It is very important to open your mouth and use your voice box. But in this day and age. We don't know how to do that.
So then you have "I'm in love with you". And that one is so very scary. I mean even if I were in love with someone and they told me that, I would probably sit there all stiff and silent, like (awkwaaaaard). But then that's where communication comes in. Say something darnit! If you don't feel the same, you just don't. It's not a big deal. But, "I love you" and "I'm in love with you" are two totally different feelings. I've been down both paths and I can tell you that while I love all of my friends (male) (side-eye), I AM NOT in love with any man right now. And they better know it, because I am very verbal; almost too verbal.
I love you...
-Schye
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